Be a Winner

Every one of us has goals in life. Some people are able to achieve them, while some do not. Such people usually blame their fate for their failure. However the reality is something else. No one, except you, is responsible for both your failures and successes. You are responsible for all the good things and, so called, bad things in your life. Just be mature enough to accept responsibility.

Every one of us wants to taste success. No one does wrong things intentionally. They just occur, for which we have to pay heavily. Now the question arises how to overcome such things and how to make your path to success smoother. The following points will make everything clear:

• Everybody has dreams, but very few have the willpower to make those dreams come true. The first thing I suggest is either stop dreaming or start making an effort to make your dream come true. Set a clear goal in life. Let your body breathe that goal. Let your eyes see that goal happening. Every nerve in your body should feel that goal. Keep repeating to yourself,“NOTHING ELSE MATTERS until I achieve my goal.”
• If you have ever baby sat for a child, you must have seen that the more you tried to divert the baby’s attention from doing bad things, the more the child will do it. But the moment you stop paying attention to the baby, their first reaction will be to create a lot of chaos and then, eventually stop. Nothing will harm you if you just ignore it. The same case is with your so- called problems. They occur and cause you so much trouble by giving them too much attention. I am not suggesting you to live in a fantasy world, wherein you live carefree no matter what happens. I am just asking you to take these so-called problems from a different viewpoint. From now on, stop calling your problem ‘a problem’. REPLACE ‘PROBLEM’ WITH ‘CHALLENGE’! After doing this, you will feel a tremendous change in yourself. Earlier your first reaction to the problems must have been feelings of nervousness, stress, etc. But after this replacement, your first reaction to your problems would be to face them right at that moment, and solve it immediately. Instead of causing stress, these challenges would make you brave, bold and smart.
• I have seen many people getting very tense and stressed whenever they lose some opportunity or something important in life. This feeling not only affects your present state of mind but also hinders you future progress. Getting depressed gives you nothing, instead it takes away a lot of things. Never cloud your eyes with tears or get angry if you miss an opportunity. Always keep your vision clear so that you won’t miss the next opportunity. People might tell you that everything is lost and that there are no more chances. Don’t believe them. The world changes every second. There are more opportunities today than there were yesterday. Tomorrow there will be more. Success does not lie in what is lost, but in what is left.
• My friends always used to ask me that what I want to be in life? The next Bill Clinton, the next Bill Gates, or the next Warren Buffet. I told them that I want to be ‘Chandresh Bhardwaj’. I want to be myself. We always have one or the other ideal person in life. We try to follow his or her footprints. The way they behave, their lifestyle, and their name and fame allures us in every way. The problem that arises in this whole process is that we completely forget our own identity. It’s not bad to have an ideal. This gives you an idea of what you want to be. But the limits of that ideal should be only until it gives you an idea of what you want to achieve in life. Don’t forget your own self in it. Always remember that you have so much more power in you than you realize. The good qualities that you see in others also exist in you. You may not be able to see it. But these powers exist in enormous quantity. Always believe that there are so many wonderful and intellectual things that will never be done if you don’t do them. Believe in yourself. Only then others will believe in you.
• Never follow the crowd. Be a leader, not a follower. Make your own path, and walk on it. Don’t worry about people. The new ideas are always criticized simply because they are not common. Once they become common, the whole world follows it. Always remember one thing: to be a winner, you have to believe in yourself when nobody else does.
• Practice thinking confident thoughts, and very soon you will develop a strong sense of capacity. No matter how big the challenges are, you will be able to succeed them. Like you feed your body everyday with proteins, vitamins and minerals, feed your mind everyday with positive thoughts. Have great hopes, big dreams, tremendous expectations, and a dare to live with them.